PLEASURE OF LOVE….Ladies, would you cheat if you weren’t sexually satisfied?  Men, how long would it take for you to cheat if you weren’t sexually satisfied?  While asking a friend of mine the importance of sex to her in a relationship, her response was next to financial security, sex ranked 2nd.  She further continued to say, “Life is short, so make the best of it.”  In a perfect world, your bills are paid on time, you travel and shop indiscriminately, you may even help family members with an occasional loan, but when the lights go out, you want to be satisfied in bed.  That toe curling, drenched in sweat, arch in your back type of sex.  Anything less is a disappointment.  But what is one to do when there’s something lacking between the sheets?  I’d definitely suggest talking it out, and possibly even counseling.

Sex is an extremely important component to a healthy relationship.  Frankly speaking, it makes us who we are.  Just as natural as breathing and eating, sex is a fundamentally essential part of our human makeup that has major benefits.  It’s a stress reliever, reduces cancer, a great cardio workout and has been reported that it even makes you live longer.  Sex produces a hormone called oxytocin that regulate two female reproductive functions; childbirth and breastfeeding.  It also induces relaxation, trust and psychological stability.

But I digress, getting back to the question of whether one would cheat if they weren’t sexually satisfied, of course depends  on the individual. Talk it out.  Let the other person know what you like, desire and require.  Tell them how you like to be kissed, licked, sucked, and fucked.  It may be something as simple as letting them know you’re ready and willing to experiment in something fun, exciting and even kinky.  If he/she doesn’t know there’s something lacking, take that time to inform them.  And above all, be mindful of their feelings.  If you’re truly in love with your partner, you’ll want to save the relationship and help him/her raise the bar in the bedroom.  But what if your partner was reluctant to change, stubborn, close minded, or even dismissive of your requests?  Then what would you do?